So what is ADD? Well how the specialist first explained it to me back in 2013 is its “Attention, Hyperactivity Deficit Disorder without the Hyperactivity.” Great yes, because that explanation made all the difference and really gave me an insight into what expect while raising a child with this diagnosis.
So here is what happened…
Having left the hospital with that explanation, a 7 year old in tow with a supply of medication after the initial cry moment, I thought ‘What the…….’ In some ways it was good to finally get a handle on why our daughter was different to her three siblings, why she didn’t sleep, fidgeted, couldn’t concentrate, delayed learning and all that and that finally her hearing loss was not to blame, but at the same time I was 29 years old, had never heard of ADD, had no experience of ADD and I remember thinking what now? It was a long road of ups and downs and trails and errors, with questions and me constantly questioning myself. Even now, I still research and learn to better know what ADD is and how best to help my daughter be who she wants to be.
Fast forward 6 years and I am now the mother of a 12 going on 13 year old who has a mind of her own, is not afraid of anything including her own disabilities, still struggles with understanding the world around her, still needs her mum to explain daily life events and feelings, is a total stickler for routine, has the concentration of a gnat unless its a medical drama, still can’t sleep, has more and more periods of hyper focus in relation to said medical dramas, wants to be a paramedic but worries she won’t be able to, hides all symptoms of anything in school, is still behind her peers in school but making progress and I could not be prouder.
It has not been the easiest of roads the last 6 years. There have been times as I have previously blogged about that I have struggled and not been able to wrap my brain around the concepts of having a child with ADD. Oh and now she may also be having assessments for Autism as well…..joy but I really would not change it for a second, even to prevent my own health problems.
She really is amazing. She is kind and funny, exasperating and annoying, she has the look of an angel but is a devil at starting arguments. She does not get on very well with her siblings but if any one them are in trouble she is the first to step in. She is loyal to her best friend even though she struggles to make and keep other friendships and she never ever lets any of her disabilities or special needs get in the way of her living life.
Outside of school she is an active member of her Scout Troop earning badges and learning new skills and never misses a chance of being in the great outdoors. More recently L started with her local Army cadet force – why I hear you murmur, because they are regimented and routine and perfect for someone that needs that kind of atmosphere!!!! Her uniform is immaculate and with support she can manage to take part even with her short term memory problem. L has even started to stay for the weekend camps -something she would never ever have done before and even though her sisters go as well L has the opportunity to be a part of something that keeps her active and celebrates her achievements. What could be better?
L is not afraid of anything, will throw herself in wholeheartedly as long as there is someone there to ensure she stays safe. Thats my job, to make sure she is safe and while she is willing and able to try I will let her and support her as much as I can, I never want her to be afraid of who she is
XX Leanne XX